Social work student Sarah’s perspective
Talking about death and dying can feel difficult. Many people avoid the subject or feel unsure about how to start the conversation. Yet speaking openly about wishes and concerns earlier in life can bring comfort, clarity and reassurance to both individuals and the people closest to them.
As part of Dying Matters Awareness Week, we’re highlighting why these conversations matter and how they can help people feel more prepared and supported.
Sarah Sweatman, a student currently on placement with Rowcroft Hospice’s social work team, has been learning about the importance of these discussions.
Creating space for honest conversations
Reflecting on her experience at the hospice so far, Sarah says:
“My Rowcroft hospice placement has highlighted the importance of having open conversations around death, dying and bereavement in helping to reduce fear and uncertainty. Creating a safe space for people to talk enables them to share their worries, and to feel listened to and less alone during a difficult time. I have also learned that people often already have thoughts and worries about what lies ahead, but may need permission or encouragement to talk about them.”
Why starting conversations earlier can help
Having these conversations early can help people feel more in control of their choices and reduce the pressure on families during already emotional moments.
“When conversations happen earlier, people feel more in control of their choices,” says Sarah. “It also reduces pressure on families later and helps avoid rushed decisions made in crisis situations. My friend’s dad passed away unexpectedly, and I witnessed first-hand the impact that not having these conversations had: my friend had to make all the decisions that they felt were best. But they would have much preferred to know that they were carrying out their dad’s wishes instead of guessing.”
Learning how to start the conversation
During her placement, Sarah also attended an Advance Care Planning course delivered by Rowcroft’s Education Team:
“The training helped me realise I do not need to have all the answers. Learning practical ways to start conversations and how to signpost appropriately increased my confidence and understanding of my role.”
Advance care planning – and the reassurance it can bring
Planning ahead helps people think about and record their wishes for the future. For families, it can provide reassurance that they are respecting the choices of the person they love.
“Advance care planning helps families feel reassured that they are respecting their loved one’s wishes,” adds Sarah. “Having clarity can reduce anxiety, guilt, and uncertainty at the end of life.”
Conversations rooted in dignity, choice and compassion
Sarah says her experience at the hospice has also shaped the way she now thinks about these important discussions:
“My time at Rowcroft hospice has helped me see that end-of-life conversations are about dignity, choice and compassion. It has made me more confident in approaching these discussions sensitively and at the individual’s pace. Following the passing of my friend’s dad, I had conversations with my mum – I now have very clear instructions about her advance care plans and what she would like to happen.”
During Dying Matters Awareness Week, Rowcroft is encouraging people to think about what matters most to them and to begin those important conversations with the people closest to them. Even small conversations can make a big difference later on.
To find out more about planning for the future, visit Rowcroft’s Planning for the Future Hub here.
About Sarah
Sarah is currently on a four-month placement with Rowcroft Hospice’s social work team as part of her social work degree. Her usual role is in adult social care with Torbay and South Devon NHS Foundation Trust.